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  1. Going Sufi

    Ah, just like all the other Flat Earthers..
  2. Going Sufi

    Moose wasn't talking about that though, he was talking about the new age "spiritual but not religious" identity which has become trendy to adopt. Plus, true tasawwuf is to adopt the Sunnah... Like that famous saying went: He who is a Faqi without being a Sufi is deficient He who is a Sufi without being a Faqi is a heretic
  3. Going Sufi

    Moose, our interactions: Moose: Blurts long rambling dialogue with some question phrases thrown in sporadically. Solicits opinions Queen Zimbabwe: blurts out a counter ramble, vaguely - but not entirely related to the first. End on a new random tangent Moose: Hmmm yes, I think my first ramble was quite ramble-y. I realise that reading your counter-blurt. Thanks!
  4. Going Sufi

    And Moose or other mods, please fix my quotes!!!
  5. Going Sufi

    Yes, but they're not designed to produce strong believers. They're designed to produce "happy" or contented human beings without the commitment of orthodox religion and the heaviness which that carries. They don't want to branch out into scholarly traditions because that eliminates the "feel good" (nafs) and adds a discipline which the untrained nafs would shy away from.
  6. Going Sufi

    Sorry Moose, I was going to respond to this yesterday, but decided to leave it 'til I had time to do it properly! It could be argued that low self-esteem comes under the bracket of tarbiyya. I can actually also see it having a relation to egotism because your study of the ego can address questions around self-worth, where we draw it from and whether low self-esteem is giving other people's opinions a misplaced emphasis in your life? When it comes to "root causes" of low self-esteem, I seem to be surrounded by people who reference the way they were made to feel by family (particularly parents) growing up. Their idea of who they are in the world and having validation for being an important and valuable human being can be greatly reinforced or hugely stunted by negative comments and attitudes in childhood- arguably the first home of tarbiyya for human beings. I think the tarbiyya should come with a human guide/spiritual teacher. Knowing you well enough will help them prize out exactly where the cause of a person's issues are- the hope being they can be given a tailored "spiritual prescription" for their issues. But like you say, low self confidence is just one example, I can think of sooo many other problems relating to the self (nafs) which could be mistaken for egotism. However, I can also see if you peel back the implications of these problems- they are traced back to the ego. I say this because a carefully trained and self-aware ego would be able to identify and work on these inner issues with the help of a teacher. Yes, it depends really where you draw the circles between psychology, spirituality, self, etc. Tasawwuf, at it's core, emphasizes the integrated and holistic nature of the human being- where all faculties should be working in harmony towards a united purpose to produce a person at peace. I feel the calibre of the teachers is something which is a huge factor in the success and failure of the "spiritual wayfaring" of a student. I think there's a two-fold almost dichotomy when it comes to the ills of the nafs. I feel like as time progresses we just have different (and often alarmingly extreme) manifestations of the same spiritual maladies. It seems a regular exasperated claim to think "we're at a unique juncture in history", "we have never been confronted with the kinds of problems we see today" or even basic claims like "the challenges of Muslims in the West is something never seen before". A cursory look at history will show that the same and often worse situations have played out and affected Muslims again and again throughout history. Even things like social media, may be unique in that we have never been able to communicate like this before, but the risks to the nafs (and everything else) that this medium affords is traced back to the same primal spiritual diseases which have always existed. I feel personally what is missing more than "bridging the gap" between spiritual thinkers of yesteryear and modern psychology is for people to have a clear understanding of the base nature of our nafs and the components which make us human. Then an idea of how to gain mastery over these things. And like my most favourite quote from Dr Zhivago, to be helped (by a human teacher) "to call each thing by it's right name and put each thing in it's right place". On a slightly side point, I'm not sure if you've read (the translation of) Talbis Iblis - Deceptions of the Devil- by Ibn Jawzi? I find it sooo interesting because it is a classic text where he is narrating and then critiquing many of the Sufi practices he sees around him in his own age. And he spares no punches. For example, he writes in one section about the routine practice of the Sufis of his area to starve themselves of provision, but to cook really delicious-smelling food and leave it where people outside could see and smell it so they would think that the Sufis themselves were well-fed. The aim of this was apparently to rid the nafs of riyaa and to purify the person who is voluntarily hungry from being praised for his ascetism. Ibn Jawzi says however, that not only is this practice antithetical to the Sunnah and an extremism- but also, it doesn't actually aid them in their fight against riyaa....since they KNOW they are making others believe they are well fed when they aren't, and this knowledge creeps into their ego and amplifies their self-appraisal as people who have fought arrogance. It was an interesting read.
  7. Going Sufi

    So part of the initial tarbiyyah (nurturing) training which is apparently given to new students of a tareeqah is simply to pick off various aspects of character and spiritual development. So depending on what you are most personally in need of at a certain time, your Shaykh will "prescribe" something like "do not raise your voice for 40 days" or "pray all your prayers at their earliest times for 40 days"... At the end of which you check on with your progress. If you have "broken" your agreement, then you reset it again for 40 days. Many people are actually able to do this on their own (using their own self discipline), but you can see how a Shaykh and personalised advice on those matters would be hugely useful too.
  8. Neglecting African Islam

    Yes, he's part of the Tijani tareeqah and there is a strong base of West African/completely non African Muslims in a certain part of London who regularly invite him round for lectures and talks. He's a favourite during mawlid season too.
  9. Neglecting African Islam

    Yes. Mahamadou Mahe Cisse. He has quite a strong following round my parts!
  10. Neglecting African Islam

    And the famous Timbuktu masjid!
  11. Yolk Business

    Oh man, we get fresh coconuts like 6 times a year- you know how deadly those things are to smash up? I will reserve this recipe for then inshaAllah. I do love okra so much too.
  12. Yolk Business

    Stick up for yourself Moose! Prove the old man wrong and execute this dish perfectly... It sounds quite straightforward and I look forward to trying it... Does it need fresh coconut or will dessicated do?
  13. Yolk Business

    Do you mean unripe mango pickling? Give me examples! I went to a Sri Lankan restaurant last year full of excitement and I came away depressed- it was awful! I think I had idly and sambal but they were just very badly done (I hope).
  14. Yolk Business

    Yes, when I'm being good and organised- this is one of the best ways to reduce my stress and increase my efficiency in the week. So on a weekend, if I can list out 5-6 different evening meal ideas, then I'll check if we have the necessary ingredients and if not, make a shopping list for the supermarket, butchers or fish mongers (as appropriate). Then if I know at the beginning of the day what I'm making, on my GOOD days, I'll cook lunch and dinner at the same time. And for extra points (and if it's possible with the type of food)- I'll cook dinner for tomorrow aswell and put it in the fridge. It saves a lot of money, wasted ingredients, wasted time and also lets you schedule in advance so you deliberately plan your veggie days, your fish days, your lighter meal days and your "treat"-ish days. So you don't end up cooking the same things 2-3 days in a row because you're out of inspiration. Meal planning is great if you can develop the discipline to do it regularly........and it doesn't require more than 10-15 minutes thought and listing when you sit down for it.
  15. Yolk Business

    Desis butcher vegetables like no other cuisine "style" I know. If it's a "salad", it's literally shredded onions and a a bit of cucumber if you're lucky. If it's actually meant to be a vegetable starter/main, then it's either fried or cooked to death until it's mush and then coated in a jug full of ghee to completely seal it's demise. In a vegetable curry, you will not be able to tell the difference between the 4 different potential vegetables it contains- neither in appearance, texture or taste. I've found the Japanese and general Oriental method of either raw, al dente or 'flash frying' vegetables to be the best for preserving the nutrients, taste and also features of what the actual vegetables actually are.
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