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  1. blessed.soul

    New Organization Blog!

    Salam everyone! I haven't been on MM for YEARS. I used to come here when I was a teen and now I'm a mom! Alhumdulillah. How time flies. Just wanted to share my new blog. It's about organizing...here's the link: http://simply-in-control.blogspot.com/ I have 2 other blogs as well, in case you're interested: http://qurantafsir.blogspot.com/ And an Islamic blog geared toward the youth: http://sehersscatteredpearls.blogspot.com/ Happy reading! Let me know if you have any tips iA Jazak Allah Khair.
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    Muslim women marrying Non-Muslims

    Assalamu Alaikum, So I was being bombarded with Islamic questions by a (Muslim) friend of mine after she watched a Pakistani movie called "Khuda Ke Liyay". One of them was "Why is a Muslim man allowed to marry Christians and Jews but not a Muslim woman?". I explained to her that in a Muslim household the husband is slightly more dominant and his rules go, so if he were Muslim then there's more likely a chance that the children would be...Muslimized? Anyway. So then she argues that it's the mother who raises her child, so wouldn't the children become more like the mother? Please give me some good, slid, focused reasons about this issue about why women aren't allowed to marry non-Muslims asap. I told her I'll answer her later today. Jazak Allah Khair.
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    blog???

    Lol, would've been a good ending. InshaAllah Any feedback/criticism welcome for all posts. I'm a new writer and hope to build up on this iA.
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    blog???

    It would've been more effective if I was a mother?
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    blog???

    No, not a mother. That's why the first article is from a kid's point of view.
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    blog???

    So apart from www.qurantafsir.blogspot.com , I started a new blog: http://sehersscatteredpearls.blogspot.com/
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    MSA East Zone Conference 2010

    Oh. *embarrassed* I am so not good with finding topics here. Seriously. Thanks
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    MSA East Zone Conference 2010

    Or maybe I just couldn't find it in the forums? Is anyone going?
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    blog???

    Quran Tafsir Sorry, I don't come that regularly on MM. Here's the link.
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    My Quran Tafsir blog :)

    I just found out someone had already posted it on the blog thread...didn't even know.
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    My Quran Tafsir blog :)

    Assalamu Alaikum, I started a Quran blog a few months ago, beginning with Surah Fatiha and Al Baqarah...I type up my notes after each lecture, so in case anyone's interested, here's the link! http://www.qurantafsir.blogspot.com/ It starts with the tafsir of Bismillah, and is in reverse chronological order, so you'll have to start with the oldest posts first. Comments/ suggestions appreciated
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    blog???

    Aww Jazakillah sis, I just saw this post right now! Haven't been on MM for months! We'd like to see your blog too iA
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    Quran Tafsir blog

    Assalamu Alaikum, I started a quran tafsir blog recently, and post up my notes on it. If anyone is interested, the link is www.qurantafsir.blogspot.com The notes are from Sheikh Husain Abdul Sattar's lectures.
  14. Salam, a quick question for the doctor. Do you know about infections on the face? My upper lip area is slightly swollen. It's kind of like a daana growing inside rahter than outside. Do you know what that's called? and are antibiotics necessary for it? Jazak Allah khair!

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    The Wedding Thread

    If only life was so simple. *Imagines scenario* Host: Oh yeah so my kid is getting married soon. *slams phone before anything else can be said* Auntie: wha....?
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    The Wedding Thread

    A wedding is supposed to be made public Islamically speaking. How can it be public if you only inform a few close people about it? That is pretty secretive.
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    The Wedding Thread

    Astera: Rishta aunties are any married ladies in the wedding who go around trying to be match-makers. They work best during weddings. See any single person and BOOM, they attack. Very common in the desi culture. We can't not invite them...in desi weddings you have to invite all relatives, near and far. Although yeah it would be way better if only the nearest and dearest ones were present. Bottom line: I don't have to suffer with matchmakers anymore. Rest of you, enjoy =) And yeah if everyone just lived according to Islam life would be perfect
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    relaxation

    I either do Tilawat of Surah Rahman out loud or listen to it on youtube. Relaxes me within a few minutes, Alhumdulillah.
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    The Wedding Thread

    Omg, rishta-aunties have been annoying the life out of me all my life. Luckily at this wedding I won't have a rishta aunty on the lookout for me....I hope. *gulp* Asker: good point. But it's more easily said than done. There was this relative of mine who was joyous at her wedding throughout. Laughing, talking more than others. That was 3 years ago. Now even after she's had a (beautiful) baby mashaAllah, people STILL go on about how she wasn't an appropriate bride. She was "desperate" to get married to that particular guy. etc etc. It's sick really. Wedding ruiners.
  20. Salams, So how would YOU answer these questions? Answer whicever one is of interest to you. They are compulsory in some mosques in America before marriage. Pre-Marital Questionnaire 1. What is your concept of marriage? 2. Have you ever been married before? 3. Are you married now? 4. What are your expectations of marriage? 5. What are your goals in life? Long term and short term plans. 6. Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the new future. 7. Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long-term. 8. Why have you chosen me as your potential spouse? 9. What is the role of religion in your life – now? 10. Are you a spiritual person? 11. What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage? 12. What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously? 13. What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslim community in your area? 14. Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities? 15. What can you offer your mate, spiritually? 16. What is the role of a husband? 17. What is the role of a wife? 18. Do you want to practice polygamy? 19. What is your relationship with your family? 20. What do you expect your relationship to be like with the family of your spouse? 21. What do you expect the relationship between your spouse and your family to be like? 22. Is there anyone in your family that lives with you now? 23. Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future? 24. If for any reason my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done? 25. Who are your friends? Identify at least three. 26. How did you get to know them? 27. Why are they your friends? 28. What do you like most about them? 29. What will your relationship with them be like after marriage? 30. Do you have friends from the opposite sex? 31. What is the level of your relationship with them – now? 32. What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage? 33. What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends? 34. What are the things that you do in your free time? 35. Do you like to have guests in your home for entertainment? 36. What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house? 37. What is your opinion of speaking other languages in the home that I do not understand? With friends?With family? 38. Do you travel? 39. How do you spend your vacations? 40. How do you think your spouse should spend vacations? 41. Do you read? 42. What do you read? 43. After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally? 44. After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public? 45. How do you express your admiration for someone that you know - now? 46. How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you? 47. Do you like to write your feelings? 48. If you wrong someone, how do you apologize? 49. If someone has wronged you, how do you want them to apologize to you? 50. How much time passes before you choose to forgive someone? 51. How do you make important and less important decisions in your life? 52. Do you use foul language at home? In public? With your family? 53. Do your friends use foul language? 54. Does your family use foul language? 55. How do you express anger? 56. How do you expect your spouse to express anger? 57. What do you do when you are angry? 58. When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in a marriage? 59. When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or not, how should the conflict be resolved? 60. Define mental, verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. 61. What would you do if you felt that you had been abused? 62. Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused? 63. Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition? 64. Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician, before marriage? 65. What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition? 66. How do you support your own health and nutrition? 67. What is your definition of wealth? 68. How do you spend your money? 69. How do you save your money? 70. How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage? 71. Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate the debt? 72. Do you use credit cards? 73. Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a home? 74. What are you expecting from your spouse financially? 75. What is your financial responsibility in a marriage? 76. Do you support the idea of a working wife? 77. If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds? 78. Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances? 79. Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible? 80. Do you support the idea of utilizing baby-sitters and maids? 81. Do you want to have children? If not, why? 82. To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children? 83. Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, then when? 84. Do you believe in abortion in you family? 85. Do you have children now? 86. What is your relationship with your children, now? 87. What is your relationship with their parent, now? 88. What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent? 89. What is the best method of raising children? 90. What is the best method of disciplining children? 91. How were you raised? 92. How were you disciplined? 93. Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances? 94. Do you believe in public schools for your children? 95. Do you believe in Islamic schools for your children? 96. Do you believe in home-schooling your children? If so, by whom? 97. What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates and friends? 98. Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country? 99. What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all of their grandparents? 100. If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of a different culture or race, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?
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    Pre-marital Counseling Questions!

    Oh, and you're not going to tell us your husband's creative ideas? Sounds exciting, mashaAllah
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    Pre-marital Counseling Questions!

    Nope. Thanks for your detailed response, but I still don't like the idea of being asked that question. I mean how the heck are we supposed to know if public affection will be shown in the future? We don't have experience in this stuff! These things just come naturally, I don't know what'll happen later on. What's he supposed to answer anyway? In front of the counselor..."Oh yessss, I will do this and that..." I guess this has to do with different upbringings. I'm more of the shy type who doesn't discuss these things openly. Not before marriage at least.
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    AL URDU!

    Ok, thanks! But how do you say that in a sentence? White-rose: your backstreet translation made me laugh for 10 minutes! Amazing, lol!
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    Pre-marital Counseling Questions!

    44. After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public? I don't like that question. Especially since the guy will still be non-mahram. Wish there was a "skip" button. So there are no people out there with serious answers? I'm sure everyone's answers will be way different. Why are there 3 threads posted of this topic? Did I click thrice? Can someone delete the other 2? JZK.
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    AL URDU!

    What does "chashmay baddoor" mean?
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