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And imagine if you failed to meet one of those demands!

 

Best not get a wife

Kitchen has lots of knife

The simple life, The single life

That's on the real bro. But as men, we are husbands, and that's a greatest gift to a woman. We must show mercy.

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People like respecta need to exist so they can be paired up with female-versions of respecta.

I have met women who have the exact same attitude as respecta and insist that they will not go out to work, that it's the mans job to provide, that they only want to be homemakers, and Allah taala hasn't asked them to provide so there is no reason for them to work. Which is why I think there is nothing wrong with respecta wanting to marry a woman like that if he is a man like that.

What would be wrong is if a man like respecta marries the kind of woman whos wants to work. But he's smart enough to know what he wants and will make sure he doesn't end up with the wrong kinda lass. I guess it's a good thing that our generation asks these questions beforehand.

 

Whilst I personally disagree with the points he's raised, I think every person has a right to ask for what they want. If he doesn't want a working wife, that's completely fine. If I want to work after I'm married than I need to make sure I marry someone who's okay with it. The worlds a big place, not everyone is going to agree on one thing, as long as you know what you want and get it

without infringing the rights of the other person there is nothing wrong with it.

 

I've come across/had discussions with girls who have actually argued that it is unnecessary for women to learn how to drive because it's a mans job, and if they don't have a mehram then they should just take the bus. After about a good hour of this discussion I gave up because I thought well yknow what it's your choice at the end of the day, and her fella agreed. So really, to each their own.

 

I couldn't agree more with Donkey Guts and WTH earlier too- because you do largely see people paired "like for like" in general. So chances are if you like a woman with a bit of attitude and fire in her, you will naturally gravitate towards that in your marriage considerations and likewise- if you prefer the more demure home-maker only type then that is what you will go for too.

 

I also have to concur there are gazillions of female respectas out there who would actually want a husband who wants them to be like how he describes (though it sounds mad to all of MM femaledom right now :lol: ).

 

Also, at risk of sounding like a hippy- when it comes to the 'work after marriage/kids' arrangements for the wife, then usually I find this discussion is just part of the 'package' in people's mentalities. By that I mean, if you generally have a similar outlook on deen, social, gender, marriage roles etc- it is highly likely you have similar ideas on a woman's career.

 

Honestly, once you are married- Insha'Allah you have enough of a friendship and understanding between yourselves that if you say to your husband "hey, I know we discussed this before and I agreed to always work, but I'm feeling like I want to take a break from being a career woman for a while' OR "hey, I know I said I wanted to focus on only the domestic side of things after marriage, but I really miss working and feel like it would give me some focus'....you SHOULD have enough confidence in each other's thought processes to know that if your wife even changed her mind after marriage- then she may have a valid and important reason for it which needs to be discussed together.

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Yo MC, I couldn't find the right post of yours buuuut:

 

Gee golly, women are like SOOOOOOO demanding.

 

it's not just "sitting at home" and raising kids thankyouverymuch -_- . It's sacrificing your time, energy and youth to be a conscious and present parent for your children....if you saw what the average day was like for a stay-at-home-mama, it would make your little hockey head spin with all the stress, multitasking and never-ending demands thrown your way.

 

/OversensitiveOverreactionPost

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Also, at risk of sounding like a hippy- when it comes to the 'work after marriage/kids' arrangements for the wife, then usually I find this discussion is just part of the 'package' in people's mentalities. By that I mean, if you generally have a similar outlook on deen, social, gender, marriage roles etc- it is highly likely you have similar ideas on a woman's career.

That's the thing, you can't marry someone who's mentality is completely alien to yours. No disrespect to respecta, but his views are pretty alien to my way of life so naturally there'd be a clash if two different personalities like that were to come together. So really marry the kinda person who you agree with that, and that's it.

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That's the thing, you can't marry someone who's mentality is completely alien to yours. No disrespect to respecta, but his views are pretty alien to my way of life so naturally there'd be a clash if two different personalities like that were to come together. So really marry the kinda person who you agree with that, and that's it.

 

Yeah, that's sorted then- you marry Fayth and respecta marries MC

 

/closethread

 

Oh and Lily marries someone who has a ready supply of sedatives to use on her!

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If you want to meet friends I'd prefer that you invite them to the house, rather than you go out with them, okay? However I'm allowed to go out and socialise with my compadres.

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Yeah, that's sorted then- you marry Fayth and respecta marries MC

 

/closethread

 

Oh and Lily marries someone who has a ready supply of sedatives to use on her!

Straight as spaghetti me.

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Yeah, that's sorted then- you marry Fayth and respecta marries MC

 

 

I could live with that, I guess.

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Straight as spaghetti me.

 

Slightly offended. All those times you told me you couldn't wait to spend the rest of your life with me..!

 

(Unless you're talking boiled spaghetti)

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I could live with that, I guess.

I know your Ma would agree. Uncle even said that if he had a son he'd get him married to me. ^_^

 

 

Woah - does this mean we're getting married? :/

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Slightly offended. All those times you told me you couldn't wait to spend the rest of your life with me..!

 

(Unless you're talking boiled spaghetti)

-_-

 

5880%20Spaghetti%20Heart%20with%20Basil.

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